A quick recap on this equalities and school policies issue so far.

People are probably getting lost in my many posts on this issue so too recap:

My main issues are

a) I’ve found 100’s of schools with problematic policies relating to the EXACT wording of current DfE SRE Guidance documentation. (DfE whilst mounting a challenge to those include “must not promote homosexuality” are keeping quiet on what they think of those that say “must not promote sexual orientation” given this is in their own current guidance for schools)
b) DfE removed “legalisation of homosexuality and abortion” from previous to latest draft history curriculum.
c) DfE for deliberately removed gender identity from a specific equal opportunities statement from previous draft.

I have real issues with the phrasing of the current SRE guidance and I have been wondering for months if it might be in breach of equality act.  It is very clear schools are confused with their rights and responsibilities on this issue especially given that
one of the schools with a problematic policy has published their equality policy online it states “we do not promote one life style choice over another” (implying sexual orientation or gender identity is a lifestyle choice, sigh.)

Will keep you posted.

Sex and Relationships Education- A political hot potato game of piggy in the middle.

The government on the one hand says “we have full confidence in our teachers to teach their students what will be best for their education” but on the other hand says “the guidance note on reproduction is included to make sure pupils are not introduced to age inappropriate material”, and thus it lobs the hot potato of SRE into the hands of the teachers.

The teachers whom without statutory status of PSHE, without proper guidance, training and support are just not able to teach SRE to the standard it needs to currently needs to be so they either quietly drop the potato and hope no-one notices or they lob it back to the government demanding change from on high.

Meanwhile the children and young people continue to miss out on their entitlement to high quality age appropriate SRE. Another generation of poor piggys in the middle. IT IS STILL NOT GOOD ENOUGH.


Should schools teach about porn? A letter to concerned parents.

Dear Concerned Parents,

What does the question “Should schools teach about porn?” conjure up to you? What if I missed the “about”? Should schools teach porn?  Are you now worrying sex education is going a bit Monty Python but with pneumatic breasts, no pubic hair and enormous penises!?  (N.B. Despite the misleading headlines watching porn with students is absolutely not an option- it would be entirely inappropriate and possibly illegal)

The media has taken the first edition of the Sex Educational Supplement (the new SEF magazine) and gone with some rather interesting headlines including

“School pupils should be taught ‘not all porn is bad’, advise experts” (Telegraph)

Schools ‘should teach how to view porn’, sex forum says (BBC News)

Teachers should give lessons in pornography and tell pupils ‘it’s not all bad’,  experts say (Daily Mail)

As a parent are you suddenly very alarmed by these headlines? Just what exactly do teachers want to cover with my precious innocent children? Is your gut reaction now NO WAY THAT IS NOT ON! SCHOOLS SHOULD ABSOLUTELY NOT TEACH ABOUT PORN. 

My gut reaction to those headlines was to wince and sigh, because I’m a parent as well as a sex educator. I know that efforts to discuss porn with young people are aimed to provide a safe environment to discuss that porn isn’t necessarily a realistic depiction of sex,and that recognizes that young people can be exposed to very sexualised material from a young age and aims to help give them the tools to cope with growing up in a world where porn is only ever a few clicks away.  We can try and shield them from it as much as we like but ultimately past a certain age that is going to be a futile endeavor and I want my children to recognize, expect and achieve consenual healthy relationships including sexual ones.  I want them to be able to be critical of media messages about beauty, sex and sexuality, gender roles, and most of all I want them to be safe.

That is exactly what teaching about porn aims to do.

So in answer to the question Should Schools teach about porn?- ABSOLUTELY!*.

It’s a shame the media prefer sensationalist misleading headlines (whilst at the same time reinforcing the exact issues Sex Education is working to confront) rather than actually reporting how these lessons can help young people to grow up healthily and safely.

So please when confronted with headlines like these- take a little time and do some digging to what is really going on. After all, doing just that is Media Literacy 101 and exactly the type of things I want to be teaching my kids and yours. 🙂 Here is another view and here is the exact resource blown out of all proportion.



*P.S There is a caveat to that- my expectation is that teachers delivering this material should be well trained and supported by their school community and appropriate educational materials. This topic is too important and too sensitive to get wrong. Not least if you don’t want your school to end up in the Daily Mail!

P.P.S A large part of this debate seems to stem around covering issues that are too sensitive and controversial and therefore should only be covered by parents. Which is all well and good in an ideal world where all parents feel equipped to have these conversations with their children, but in the real world where children and young people  miss out on discussions around sex and relationships due to parental fears, embarrassment or lack of knowledge, then schools can have an important role to play.

As a parent I want my children to have a safe space in school to discuss some of these issues with someone other than me. I’d hope they’d talk to me but I also recognise and respect they may not want too. After all there is nothing more embarrassing than talking to your parents about anything to do with sex!

P.P.S *Update* Sex Education Forum have emailed a response to the media responses their network- pasted below for reference. Wholeheartedly agree with all of it:

1.   Teachers have a duty to teach a broad and balanced curriculum and their personal views, for example about pornography should not come into it.

2.   Good SRE promotes core values of respect, non-violence and care for each other and this extends to any discussion about pornography.

3.   The reality is many young people have seen pornography as it’s very accessible but many have never had a safe, appropriate discussion about it facilitated by an adult.

4.   Good teaching will encourage pupils to reflect on their values and attitudes and will allow them to be ‘critical consumers” of media with ‘filters in their heads’.

5.   Teachers should make it absolutely clear what is illegal and that young people understand what consent is.

6.   Teachers should be trained to teach SRE.

7.   Pornography is not to be taught in isolation and the magazine shows that the scaffolding is core SRE themes: our bodies, relationships, gender, power, consent etc.

Help for educators in dealing with sexualised media including pornography.

Today an article of mine was published in the TES-

Should we panic about Pornography?

Alongside this Spencer Williams and I wrote a guide for Teachers with some ideas and tips on how to cover it in lessons. This document also covers reference to the two main commercially available educational resources dealing with Porn and links to training courses and further reading.  It is a collaborative working document and will be updated as we go along so if you have any ideas or resources you want to share please do!

Pornography- Tips in how to address in SRE lessons.

It can be downloaded as a PDF – all you need is a TES Login.

Happy Educating.