Having explored teaching safewords with young people I think it is clear we also need to practice our NO!’s. Lesley Kerr Edwards of Image in Action recently showed us the Speak out stay safe resources from NSPCC at a SEF meeting. She had a great activity with threatening to spray kids with water from a spray bottle and they had to communicate No to her (nobody got wet!) where the NO! was broken down into three parts:
- verbal– loud strong clear confident NO!
- facial– a stern/frowning unsmiling face
- body– A hand firmly put up as a barrier signalling STOP!
I think even with teens it is worth breaking down the communication of NO! into parts so we can unpick where ambiguity and potential issues around consent can arise.
Other techniques to practice saying No include “broken record technique” or exploring passive/aggressive/assertive No communication.
What other techniques do you use for teaching No?