So the brilliant Alan McKee was talking about teaching safewords (video from about 6.03) when teaching about consent.
Safewords are a word used in sexual activity (generally in BDSM) that if used the sexual activity should stop immediately. At this point the partners should move to different form of relationship interaction, a caring, nurturing role where the following questions should be asked:
- What happened?
- Are you okay?
- What do you want to do now?
Young people often find it hard to talk about and communicate about sex and consent, so I think that teaching the option of using safewords to cause a STOP followed by a shift into caring communication about what happened could be really useful.
Given the potential daily mail sensitivities around “teaching safewords” in sex education then this could simply be taught around using the word NO. If this word is used at any point then your partner needs to check in using the questions above.
What do you think? Would you teach safewords in your classroom?